4 D’s that will destroy your dream

4 D’s That Will Destroy Your Dream

At the beginning of the New Year many people set intentions to do things differently and to create different results.  We tell ourselves “…this will be the year I create more time for myself and my family. I will lose that extra weight…” or “…I will increase my earnings…”

Are you on track to create the results you want this year?

I’d like to share with you four common obstacles that keep us from creating the lives we desire - even when we work hard and seem to be doing everything right.

Let’s see if you’ve been caught in any of these traps:

Dream Destroyer #1 : DISTRACTION

Many people look at their daily schedules - the same schedules that have been creating the same results for years - and get sidetracked with activities that have nothing to do with creating the life they want.

Time is our most precious asset.  We need to use it to move us towards our dream and spend it wisely.

Robert Heinlein said,

“In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until we ultimately become enslaved by it.”  

Dream Destroyer #2: DISSUASION

Dissuasion is looking to the conditions and circumstances of our lives - our checkbooks, calendars, the news, the economy, the latest crisis, our job, our family etc., to tell us what we can create, instead of asking what we would love. Dissuasion may show up as logic or practicality.

Dissuasion can also be the voices in our head that say “what will people think?” or “you can’t do that”.  We believe this is true and we start to believe we can’t have our dream, or worse, that we never really wanted it.

Bronnie Ware, a hospice worker, was with many people when they were on their death beds. Bronnie wrote that one of the most common regrets was,  “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

There is never a convenient time to follow your passion – NOW is the time.  It’s up to us to decide that now is the time and to make our dream a priority.

Dream Destroyer #3: DELAY

It can become a habit to keep putting something off until later.  Perfectionism falls into this category.  Often we think, I”ll do it when I can do it better.

K. Chesterton said, “ Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.”  I’d like to add, at first.

You are not going to get better at something sitting on the couch thinking about it.

There is no guarantee that any of us will have another 10 years or even one year.  Each day is a gift and needs to be lived to its fullest.

People who have realized their dreams did so by doing what they could with what they have now.

Dream Destroyer #4:  DEFCON 3

This is when we let fear stop us from daring to dream big. We let fear stop us from taking that uncomfortable action that we know is the next step toward achieving our goal.  We allow fear to paralyze us.  Bob Proctor said, “Successful people are willing to do what makes them uncomfortable in the interest of growth.”

Sometimes we need to take that next step and do it afraid.

Mark Twain said,

"Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Are you tired of waiting for your dream life to begin and ready to start LIVING it?

Your first step is to book a complimentary one hour strategy session. We will explore your dreams, discover what’s holding you back, and see if I’m the person to help you turn those dreams into reality.

To your success,

Cyn